Last Thursday, we found out that the little baby I have been growing the past 14+ weeks is indeed a little girl! That brings the level of females in the Reason household to four (not counting our dog, Penny) and the level of males to our one lone ranger, Aaron/daddy.
It may come as a surprise to some, but we didn’t go into the idea of baby #3 with any hopes of a gender. With Hadley, I was just excited to be pregnant, but I was thrilled beyond belief when I learned I’d get to have a daughter—with Sadie, I had secretly hoped for a sister for Hadley, but this one…I was just thankful to get to have another baby. I would’ve been okay not even finding out the gender this time, but for the sake of tradition and ease of planning, we kept it going. Not to get overly sappy, but in having two healthy, happy little people to love forever, I have concluded that it is a gift in and of itself I even get to have another baby, so whatever it is, is whatever God has designed for our family. Keywords here: I get to have another baby, God knows what He’s doing, and I love it. 🙂
This doesn’t go without saying that I was not incredibly nervous in finding out what our baby would be. Since day one of telling family and close friends, people had indicated hopes of baby #3 being a boy. “Maybe you’ll finally get a boy,” “Oh, it would be so great for Aaron to have a boy,” “I sure hope you get to experience having a son,” and so on and so forth. It was all 100% said in love, but I smiled each time I heard it, because while it might be shocking to some, my husband completely rocks and totally owns the “dad of daughters” life. He has never once expressed longing for a son of his own (trust me, I’ve tried to interrogate it out of him, haha!) and instead we gush over pictures and videos we take of our daughters; when we finally get them to bed, we usually talk about what cute things they did that day. I was most nervous of what other people’s reactions would be to news of a third girl. In a way, my crazy pregnant emotions made me feel like I let people down with not having a boy, which is completely ridiculous and has since been erased from my mind. Trust me when I say, I get at least once a day when people see me in public with Hadley and Sadie, “They’re just the cutest… but just you wait until they’re teenagers!” (No thank you to that comment, please! 😉 ) I’m just positive that in life, each stage will bring its surprises no matter what the gender of the child might be, and we are ready to roll with it. I’m sure that three little girls, each 20 months apart from one another isn’t the most common thing, but I cannot imagine how full my heart will be in seeing three sisters growing up together and getting to be so close in age. Hadley already obsesses over my tummy, which at this stage is still a bit soft and in the awkward stage, and has said since day one, “No, she not brother, she sister, she my little baby sister, I wanna hold her!” I guess my little one had intuition all along I was growing her another sister. 🙂
As far as how I’ve been feeling so far, I will say that I have been much sicker this pregnancy than I was with Hadley or Sadie, as throwing up and exhaustion became the norm, but almost every single time my concerned toddler would chase me into the bathroom and say, “Mama, you phew up? Don’ worry, I take care a you!” and begin to rub my back. Oh, her little back rubs warm my heart and Sadie’s constant state of giggles have gotten me through some interesting days. Social media and blogging became the worst enemy of my nausea, so screen time got cut down. I’ve tried to laugh about it, because third time around, it’s all for a good cause, and is really temporary in the grand scheme of things. 😉 I’ve craved pretty much the same things as I did with the other two: bagels (to be exact, Noah’s sourdough bagel with garlic herb schmear,) cranberry juice, California Cheesesteaks from Jack’s Urban Eats (coming from a girl who rarely eats red meat,) Larabars, chicken burrito bowls, and lots and lots of avocados on anything possible. Chocolate and coffee have sadly been my archenemies, and unfortunately, so have most veggies. I’ve tried to supplement getting more veggies in the day by drinking a Vega shake every day, but I am finally starting to feel myself again, and even began thinking how good a salad sounds!
We are definitely a “one baby at a time” kind of couple, and time will tell if we go for a fourth baby. I’m thankful to have a husband that has not minded my lack of cooking (or more so, heightened sense of hatred in the smell of cooking,) enthusiastically rubs my feet (even if I don’t have a sizable bump to excuse sore feet,) and has been down to go to bed at a daredevil 9pm nightly to support my ridiculous needs of sleep. I couldn’t and wouldn’t want to have the family I do without the man I have to do it with.
Thanks to all our family and friends in sharing their sweet congratulations to us!